本音とタテマエ

 

 

 Up to this point, my truthfulness had also prevented any romantic possibilities; it seemed unlikely that anyone would want a truly honest boyfriend.

There were no support groups for people who wanted to be less honest. Therapists advised people to speak their truth, not to shut up for once. Whatever advice everybody else needed, I needed the opposite. So I came up with my own system, made myself lists of subjects that I’d no longer discuss and various rules for myself, such as:

Hide your feelings and observations.

Instead of searching for people who will appreciate who you really are, try to be what the person in front of you wants.

Learn to make small talk.

Do NOT be yourself.

　発達障害の人なんかが空気が読めなくて本音しかいえなくて、他人を憤慨させてしまう・・・・そういえば映画でなんかあったね・・・嘘がつけなくて思っていること全部言ってしまう社会で、社会が混乱しちゃうやつ・・・ 嘘を積極的につけともいわないが、本音は隠したほうがいい場合もある。

　かといって、本音が言えなくて自分を隠してばかりいるとそれも病気の原因になる。

うまくバランスとるのは難しいね。

（本音とタテマエ）